I agree with the others in that a. that would've been really scary to hear, and b. she doesn't mean it. At least, not the way you understand 'hating' her would mean. I wonder whether it's possible though that she's expressing concern that she could be the source of stress or unhappiness in you? My DD said to me recently 'I make you very sad Mum?'. Broke my heart. Of course she doesn't make me very sad. But it made me realize that in her egocentric 2 yr old world, she just sees that Mummy is unhappy, sometimes she gets cross etc. when dealing with me... therefore I am the cause of Mummy's unhappiness. I have gone to great lengths to explain (in as simple ways as possible) about what's actually making me tearful and grumpy (exhaustion, worry...) and make sure she knows that she is not responsible, and in fact, gives me great joy. She seems to get it... last time I got teary she said "you're sad because you didn't have a good sleep Mummy? I can cuddle you to help?". Nnnnaaaaaaaaawwwwww.

Just a thought anyways.

Big hugs Hun.