DD1 is about to start school this week and I have been pondering the same question. In our case she is still not a great sleeper, so have often felt exhausted and like we were missing something ITMS. The exhaustion mixed with working, DD2, life and family demands has meant that things have not necessarily gone to plan - so we sometimes feel like we have not enjoyed/acheived/x enough.....However I do think the reality of juggling everything with little timeout has not helped our situation. Can you organise timeout for yourself and DH (together and separately) so you can come back to your DD and each other refreshed/renewed? We also took ages to let the housework/garden go a little and just enjoy each other which was key here for us. xxxx