Ali - I still feel like this with both of my girls. It actually got worse for me when DD2 was born and I kept thinking how we could have lost her. Then I started thinking of all the things that could go worng with DD1 now that she is more independant. I'm not so worried about things with SIDS with DD1 but more like her running onto the road etc. DD2 I constantly check her breathing to make sure she is ok.
Sometimes I just have to take deep breaths and make myself think positively because if I kept thinking like that then it would be debilitating. I make sure I think of possible dangers, try to minimise them and then move on. Focus on what you can control, not what you can't.
I too have these fears, sometimes to the extreme as I have an anxiety disorder. I highly recommend some meditation. I am still in the process of trying to do it regularly, but it does calm the mind. I actually went to a counsellor at the hospital when I was pregnant with DS as I didnt know how I was going to cope with the anxiety of having three.
I was sent to Calmbirth classes mainly to learn relaxation. I have just bought a mediation cd and have got a cd headset thing to listen to it in bed. It really does help, although Im not sure the anxiety ever goes. Another thing is being VERY conscious of negative thoughts, and making them into positives. xo
I have all these awful visons of DS1 dying. I think it because he is going through a stage where he doesn't want to listen to or follow instructions. I keep imagining him running in front of a car or off a cliff or something else equally terrible.
Every now and then I worry about DS2 and SIDS, but I think too much of my energy is spent worrying about the big one who does things I can prevent that I don't get to worry about him as much. Poor neglected second child.
Ali,
I feel like I could have posted the same thing word for word...
I am so paraniod about DD and god, where does it stop?? I check her breathing AT LEAST 3 times per half hour nap, at night DP and I take turns... Then I worry about when she is older and goes out drinking... not to mention other things and I feel like I dont even want to say it aloud in case the universe hears me... OK I know Im sounding absolutely crazy...
I guess its good to know we arent alone in our fears... I wish I could not worry but then on the other hand you cant go around thinking the world is completely safe, because its not. Sorry Im typing gibberish.
Your not alone!
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