Feeling so sad for DD..

[~Gee_Whizzy~]

Totally understand how you're feeling hun I'm like Heaven, in that my DD1 loves her little sister to bits and isn't jealous of her at all, but DD2 is very demanding which means that DD1 is left to entertain herself sometimes, which breaks my heart as she was so used to having me do everything with her - she isn't upset or anything and will happily play with her dolls, cars and teasets on her own, but i feel guilty as i can't spend as much time with her as i used to, so its more a mummy issue than an issue for my DD1!!

[ladybird11]

Awww hun, DD never really cared to much when DS came on his way, but this time around I've noticed DS is probably experiencing similar to your DD, and it is heart breaking isn't it?

I wish I had some advice. There is a book called 'there is a baby inside my mummy's tummy' that DD has 'mastered' lol, and its a bit too old for DS just yet, and he just doesn't have the attention span for that topic lol, typical boy! Can I send it to you hun? PM me your address :-)

[Winter]

Thanks Leesa, you are a gorgeous girl! But I have ordered it at the library and its just waiting for me to pick it up. I have heard its pretty good to help kids understand the whole new baby thing. We'll see...

Hugs to your DS, my heart is breaking for both our littlies.

[ladybird11]

Yes, I wonder how they'll adapt, our babies are going to be 'big brother and big sister' soon!

Lots of cuddles to Miss A xoxox

[Heaven]

Have you read this??

Loving Two

I walk along holding your 2-year-old hand, basking in the glow of our magical relationship. Suddenly I feel a kick from within, as if to remind me that our time alone is limited. And I wonder: how could I ever love another child as I love you?
Then he is born, and I watch you. I watch the pain you feel at having to share me as you’ve never shared me before.
I hear you telling me in your own way, “Please love only me”. And I hear myself telling you in mine, “I can’t”, knowing, in fact, that I never can again.
You cry. I cry with you. I almost see our new baby as an intruder on the precious relationship we once shared. A relationship we can never quite have again.
But then, barely noticing, I find myself attached to that new being, and feeling almost guilty. I’m afraid to let you see me enjoying him, as though I am betraying you.
But then I notice your resentment change, first to curiosity, then to protectiveness, finally to genuine affection.
More days pass, and we are settling into a new routine. The memory of days with just the two of us is fading fast.
But something else is replacing those wonderful times we shared, just we two. There are new times – only now, we are three. I watch the love between you grow, the way you look at each other, touch each other.
I watch how he adores you – as I have for so long. I see how excited you are by each of his new accomplishments. And I begin to realize that I haven’t taken something from you, I’ve given something to you. I notice that I am no longer afraid to share my love openly with both of you.
I find that my love for each of you is as different as you are, but equally strong. And my question is finally answered, to my amazement. Yes, I can love another child as much as I love you – only differently.
And although I realize that you may have to share my time, I now know you’ll never share my love. There’s enough of that for both of you – you each have your own supply.
I love you – both. And I thank you both for blessing my life. Author Unknown

[Shanti]

Winter.... I know how you feel every day I think about how it soon won't be just me and DD anymore and I feel sad then I think about how wonderful it will be that she'll have her baby brother or sister to get to know and how amazing it will be once we adjust to it all!!

Heaven, that's awesome - I've printed that out and it's near my desk to read whenever I feel a bit sad about the changes about to happen for DD!!

[kellbell]

wow i love this going to print it out. Your post is exactly how i feel for my DD as well