my 'issue' was the fact that the three boys wouldnt be with me on the same weekend...therefore i didnt have a free weekend to work or play.

My other issue was that the oldest plays sport ever weekend so there for fo his dad to agree to swap the weekends around would be a no brainer.....

BUT im also thinking you know what i can handle 2 -3 -6 months worth of no weekends to get the other child sorted in the other household..... i will be attending a child psych next wed with my ex husband .....