We are going through the same thing. DD2 is VERY clingy atm. I am pretty sure it is a developmental phase that most babies go through. I know a few of my baby buddies are experiencing the same thing. DD2 wants to be held and clings to my leg following me around if she is on the ground. I vaguely remember DD1 doing the same thing at a similar age. I have lent my wonder weeks book to a friend, but i am sure it says they can become clingy around this time as they are about to achieve big milestones such as walking.

As for the hitting and pinching my little munchkin is guilty of that too. I think it is part of the process of learning that their actions have a result. DD2 thinks it is hysterical. She loves to slap my face and grab my nose. I tell her 'gentle' and show her how to be gentle. She is laughing and thinks it's fun, but i am hoping my gentle encouragement will sort it out soon.

I don't think your DD's behavious is out of the norm, and i certainly don't think it has anything to do with the way you are parenting.

I too am living with my folks at the moment, so a big hug for all the trials and tribulations that brings too!