To be honest I doubt counselling would get through his fat skull and if it did it would be one thing at counselling, then once we got home and he'd have to do something, or once he rang up his parents, it would all go out the window. I don't think I even WANT to try anymore. Just bide my time till the kids are older and I go back to work. And I agree it's not healthy for Elly , seeing the explosions or the dysfunctional relationship either. We had a break during the week where he was gone for 3 days up at a course for his work but it helped nothing. Sorry all for my midnight venting