Welcome to the bad mother club!

[Oorki Galoorki]

im not here to make others feel better.
allboys wants to join the bad mothers club then i think ignoring her hurting child when he is most upset and in pain is a good way to do it.
yup it suck when kids dont listen and you know what will happen.

[Arimeh]

Well I think the point of her post was for a bit of support and to know that others have done some things that qualify them for bad mother of the day. Not some person pointing out exactly what she did to make her a sucky mother.

[beckoes]

I have to agree, Ive always found BB to be such a great support network where one can tell the things that you wouldnt normally tell, the things you wouldnt be that proud of that were done in a moment and will be learned from and not reapeated..
Not here to judge....just to give hugs.

[Doing my best]

All boys - I understand how you didn't realise that your little boy was hurt .. My DD whinges an awful lot, and sometimes I just have to ignore her, especially if I am changing or feeding DS, and yes this has backfired on me too..

So sorry you feel so bad, but I have found that if DD does something that has hurt her, I take that toy away till she insists on getting it back, then I explain why I took it away. Very rarely happens again..

Hope you start feeling better..

[helle]

im not here to make others feel better.

and here I was thinking that's what BB was all about oO;;

I'm not a mummy yet, but I do have a furbaby.... who I forgot to pick up from Mums house yesterday on my way to work, and didn't realise til I was half way through making dinner... oops

[~clover~]

Geez...I won't start a list. We'd be here all day!
Accidents happen. Simple as that.
My sad bit for today is probably being to stuffed to clean the lounge room & kitchen again, coz silly me stayed up til midnight doing it last night, knowing I was sleep deprived as it was!
Oh & I kicked DD1 out the door 15 minutes before bus time coz she was driving me insane!!
Nothing too sinister, but there are plenty of parenting moments I'm not proud of.

[kirsty_lee]

[QUOTE=Teagz;2032060]and here I was thinking that's what BB was all about oO;;/QUOTE]

:yeahthat:

[Mum2SweetCs]

Huge all-boys. I understand how you feel as I feel like i belong to the bad mother's club everyday. Seems like I am yelling at DD daily and calling her a brat when all she is is normal.

I also agree with you that BB is great for support.

Im an L plater mum here so BB is great to learn from other parents as well.

Hey we arent superhumans here, sure to make mistakes!!!!

Don't beat yourself up

[Daytona's Mummy]

I also could make a massive list with all the mistakes I have made over the years, but at the risk of dribbling on as I'm known to do, I wont!
There is no way your a bad mum, but if you want to start a club, I'm sure there are plenty of us elligable to join.
Life is all about learning by your mistakes and it sounds as though unfortunately both of you learnt by this one.

My DS often asks me why I'm so @nal & protective/hard on him & all I can say is: Because you tought me to be this way!
We all learn to be mothers each and every day, we never stop learning, Right from the moment they are conceived, we learn to care for them and nurture them, Feel guilty we made that mistake of having that drink last night only to find out the next day we're pregnant (for example), then the guilt comes back time and time again, each time learning from the next experience... We all make mistakes, it's whether we learn form them that determines whether we're good perents or not!!

Oh and it's a shame when certain others can't learn from their mistakes and learn to bite their tongue! It's time to have a long hard look in the mirror sweetheart, hopefully you'll get enough of a wake-up call and see no-one is perfect, not even you!
It's a shame rep points can't be taken away aswell as added to!

[Jennifer13]

Well, at the risk of over-simplifying, this is the first time I've ever parented a three year old and I'm doing the best I can with the good-and-bad lessons in parenting I got from my own upbringing.

I spent years studying for what I do as a living and I still make the occasional mistake there. I'd be hard-put not to make more frequent mistakes in a much more challenging role (mothering) for which I've had NO training!

So yeah, like everyone else, there's not enough time in my day to list all of the stoopid mistakes I've ever made... Thank goodness our kids love us so much! We must be doing something right.

[~breeze~]

I can definately join your club

EVERYBODY makes mistakes, we just have to learn from them.

Don't feel too bad & please dont let others try to make you feel worse, as you can see from this thread, the majority of people have moments like you (ok, everyone does, just the majority of people have admitted to it )

[TeniBear]

...Feel guilty we made that mistake of having that drink last night only to find out the next day we're pregnant (for example)...

Oh yes, this! Even though I know now everything's okay so far in there, I'm still beating myself up about my Hen's night... I was about a week pregnant (so with pregnancy maths, 3 weeks) and got the drunkest I have ever been in my entire life. I don't drink, normally, but I intentionally got drunk that night. To the point of throwing up, not remembering how I got home, and having a two-day-long hangover. Not to mention other embarrassing things that I won't go into here. (Just to be clear, I didn't mean to get that drunk. I forgot that it takes a while for alcohol to seep in for me, so I kept drinking til I could feel it)

Cut to 11 days later, and I find out I'm pregnant. Mind starts clicking away and i realise that I must have been pregnant throughout all of this... I still worry about the effects on my poor baby

Isn't there actually something called the Bad Mothers Club? I'm sure I've read something. I think it's for women whose parenting styles are looked down upon by others as unhealthy or whatever (you know, like feeding their kids fast food because they just can't be bothered.)

[briggsy's girl]

Teni - fwiw - if you were only 7dpo (days post ovulation), you may not have even implanted yet - an embryo generally hasn't developed to the point that it can implant into the lining until at least 8dpo - and doesn't share a blood supply with mum for longer than that as well - so any alcohol you had at your hen's night wouldn't have impacted your bubba.

[~Gee_Whizzy~]

Isn't there actually something called the Bad Mothers Club? I'm sure I've read something. I think it's for women whose parenting styles are looked down upon by others as unhealthy or whatever (you know, like feeding their kids fast food because they just can't be bothered.)

LOL...well yes there is! - i just googled it....very interesting