You are not alone sweety! My 8yo (only just now 9yo) was doing the same thing. Yes it could be all the changes yada yada, but you know what, they need to know that no matter what happens chores still need to be done! I am quite strict with my DD too. She cleans her room, does her homework and her own lunch & recess. She also is expected to help with other chores when we need it.
There is no harm in asking if things are ok at school, but I think its just the stage they go through. At 1 stage, I threatened to throw everything out of DD's room!!
I am not too sure of your daughter, but mine has hit puberty, so it add a whole new ball game of emotions in the mix! Like having a 15yo tanty
Oh - I also asked myself the same question about my expectations! We've been in the same routine since kindy (now yr 4) so there is no excuse! I do admit, I allow DD to go to bed at 8:30 and we are up at 6am
My DD is also 8, will be 9 in March - and although she lives with her dad I've found she's doing similar things when she's here with us.
We don't really ask a lot of her, other than tidying her room, keeping her bathroom tidy and putting her clothes in the wash. I'm thinking about starting to get her to help with the dishes, but she's only with us 2 days a fortnight so don't really want that time to be all about chores. This will change when she comes to live with us fulltime in a couple of years (we're looking at year 7).
Most of the time it was a constant "are you done yet" to get her to do her room, then we'd go check and she'd only half done it, or having to remind her to empty the bathtub when she's finished with it and to take her clothes out of the bathroom. She is getting better now though. I'd say give it time, keep the consistency and things will gradually start to improve.
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