am i a bad parent??

[Starfish]

I agree with everyone else - you are in no way a bad parent.

I guess the question you need to ask yourself is WHY you think the things you mentioned are a problem. Most kids develop in their own time, e.g. in terms of TT, sleeping on their own, etc. Some kids do this quicker than others. Your DD seems to be well withing the normal range, so you don't need to stress about these things. Your DD will get there in her own time (and it will be lot less struggle for you if you don't fight her). GL.

[1pj]

Thanks ladies,i guess its a mixture of things,mainly because i feel alot of older ones feel she should be doing all these things and make me feel bad because she doesnt,maybe i need to not see them so much for a while its starting to really get me down,ive just had another blubber sessions because i was out with an older lady friend i know and she thought my DDs behaviour was unacceptable i admit she was bit bad today but there was a number of reasons why but then basically said to me and all these others we ran into that shes naughty because im so hopeless and dont discipline which isnt true at all!!So over it i will try take your advice and let her do things in her own time and do one thing at a time and not stress,thanks again!

[fionas]

Darl, every child is different. I'm an old fart myself but that hasn't stopped grannies coming up to me and telling me everything I'm doing wrong with my child. It's really hard not to take it to heart but you know your child best. DD1 is a bit of a wild child. It's a fine line between knowing when I should be disciplining and when I should be choosing my battles IYKWIM. But as long as there's progress, I think that's all that matters. She's a lot better behaved than she was six months ago.

As for the bottles, cot and TT - well, they're really quite minor stuff in the whole scheme of things. I mean, no-one at her 18th birthday is going to ask her when she started sleeping in a bed, stopped drinking out of a bottle or stopped wearing nappies. They will, however, notice whether she's a good person, a kind person etc. etc. and those are the things that matter. Have a cuppa and pat yourself on the back for loving your daughter.

[Saffi]

My DS was in a cot until he was about 26 months - and only got him out to put #2 in it. I actually think waiting for as long as we did was to our benefit as he made the transition in one day.

As for TT it has been a gradual process over almost 2 years to get to the point of being confident he'll go on his own . He's still in nappies at night and we are only just starting to think about that.

Don't be so hard on yourself. As the others have said kids (and parents) do things in their own time and sometimes rushing into something before they are ready can be worse than waiting a bit.