Here's a poem I wrote that sort of goes with this
Dear mother with a living child
I’ll try and explain how I feel inside
What life’s like without my child now
I hope you’ll understand somehow

I don’t have my child now you can see
So we’re very different you and me
My darling baby died so very young
While you kept your daughter or your son

I never had the chance to be
With my baby in my arms with me
I only got one day to hold
Her close to me but she’s still with me I’m told

You’ve had the tears the smiles and such
It probably doesn’t surprise you much
That I wanted that in my life each day
This shouldn’t have been my lonely way

I’ll ask you to remember how
You feel when your child’s not with you now
Do you worry about them and think that they might
Be feeling quite sad without you tonight?

Do you think of all the problems that befall?
A child on their own without a mum they can call?
Do you worry they might cry without you there?
Do you care they might hurt themselves without you near?

A mother with a living child
Has many fears, or so I’m told
She has so many worries for her children’s lives
It’s a wonder she doesn’t develop hives!

A mother who’s like me you see
Never can see where her baby might be
She never holds them again in her lap
Or soothes their fears when they get in a flap

Every day without them and every long night
Is spent wondering where they are; are they alright?
Every waking minute is worry and fear
That they’re hurting or needing our love to be near

So I’m sure you have worries for your kids each day
But when you see them again you know they’re OK
You know that they’re living and learning to grow
And although it’s scary they’ll come home, you know

My baby however will never return
To my arms and my life or the place she was born
I’ll always be worrying is she OK?
And this is the difference; each in our own way

For you can always return to your child
And know they are OK and watch them with a smile
But for me it is different to you every day
I cannot see my child so I worry away

I will never know if my kid’s doing fine
If they’re crying or smiling or playing in sunshine
If they’re having a good day or this one is bad
I can’t know if my child lives in joy or is sad

So try to imagine for a while if you can
That your baby’s not with you that you cannot plan
To help them when they’re needy; just tie up their shoe
Try to imagine not having them right here with you

Try to think how you’d feel with your baby not here
Put yourself in my shoes and imagine my fear
Of never quite knowing your child is alright
Now imagine how I feel trying to sleep at night

I know it’s impossibly too hard to believe
But this is the world in which I try to achieve
Some understanding from this trouble and strife
This is the way now I have to live my whole life

Oh mothers with live children hold them close to you
And share with them, care for them and keep love true
Don’t for one day imagine it’s too hard to go on
For without a child in your arms the feelings are still strong

So mother with living children I hope you see
How sad and difficult life is for me
I know life is tough with a growing young one
But without baby with your life just comes undone.