babe, can you totally distract her from whatever the behaviour is right now and get her to help you get dinner ready, or sit and do a puzzle together or something just for 15 mins. Just a total distraction away from what you don't want her to do?? I am having trouble with J and today I found I was able to diffuse him by getting him to help me with making porridge and by the time we were done he was distracted from whatever it was that he was crying about. Hope you find something that works hun - so hard oxxoo