I also have no advice but just want to send you some
You're right - it's so often the characteristics that we love and will love about our kids that drive us the most crazy.
My friend has a daughter the same age who sounds very similar to your DD. I know for them she got alot better when she started preschool, although I know it can go the other way for a lot of kids.
Is she at school/preschool? What does her teacher say about how she behaves there?
Hugs hun. Do you have a local health service where there might be a psychologist or social worker you could go and talk to? When I did 123 Magic (the course) it was run at our local community health centre by a social worker who you can also go and see for one on one visits. She really knew her stuff and I won't hesitate to go and see her in the future if we need it. I'm in NSW so I'm not sure how other states work with community health centres. You could try your GP to find out what services are out there?
I was thinking along the same lines as susprised - it might be time to talk to a professional about what's going on and how to deal with it. I'd start with either the GP or CHN and ask what services the council offer. I know ours offers parenting courses but you might even need something more than that - you might need some one on one time, as opposed to a group parenting course thing.
You could also look into her "love language" - figure out her currency and try to work with that? Have you heard about love languages? There's a book called "5 love languages for children". Might help.
My DD is only 3.5 and I am getting really concerned about how she is going to be when she gets older - she is 3.5 with the attitude sometimes of a teenager. Last night I told her to be sensible, while we were at Nanna and Pop's house, she was carrying on getting silly, I said "DD, be sensible please" and the reply I got was "No, YOU be sensible". She has tried that before, so I called her over, got down at her level, asked her to look at me and said "That is NOT how you speak to mummy. You need to speak nicely to mummy. Smarten up and drop the attitude." and she turned away and said "YOU drop the attitude"
I was gobsmacked. I called her back and again said "That is NOT how you speak to mummy. This is your last chance - speak nicely to mummy or you will miss out on dessert (my mum had made a chocolate mousse, which DD had helped with) and you will go to the thinking spot. Smarten up." Her response? "No mummy, YOU smarten up."
No dessert, thinking spot, but I after I'd put her into the thinking spot, went back to the kitchen and my mum says "Where did that come from?" and I have no idea. I was horrified. Where is this attitude coming from? And if this is what she is like now, God help us in the future.
Some awesome advice hun and I have none other than to me it sounds like time to get some advice from others like MCHN etc. So sorry I don't have any advice but know I am here, on BB and FB if you ever need to vent/chat/cry/scream etc xoxoxxo
I am about to post the exact same thread. I even rang ex DH in tears just now to be told "I told you so", because I spent 10 minutes being hit and having things thrown at me.
Obviously I have no advice, just wanted to send some love and let you know there are others dealing with these issues. I am at the end of my positive parenting tether and have tried everything you have with totally zero results.
I hope you can find some answers and move forward. xx
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I even rang ex DH in tears just now to be told "I told you so", because I spent 10 minutes being hit and having things thrown at me.
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