As long as it's appropriate for the weather, my kids can choose to wear whatever they like! I don't care if other people think they look odd, I refuse to sweat the small stuff.
So funny, I was just thinking about this on Saturday when my niece (3yo) turned up to swimming in a long sleeved hot pink top, orange and yellow rah-rah skirt, grey leggings and white crocs! There's my DD in pink trackies, runners, a pink and purple striped top and a purple jumper. All chosen by me, clearly!
DNiece has loved picking her own clothes since she was about 2yo. Sister lets her, like above, why sweat the small stuff??
Whereas my DD doesn't really care! Sometimes she will pull something out and say "I want to wear this mummy!" but often its a singlet and its 2 degrees outside, or similar! So then a bit of "That's lovely! But how about one of these nice long sleeved options instead?"
I don't think I'd really care but she just doesn't want to, so that's ok!
I'm tempted to get a badge made that says 'I got dressed all by myself' OR 'I chose my own clothes today'.
I usually have her clothes picked out on childcare days, she often picks her own things the other time, although I will push for something in particular if we are doing something special. Sometimes what she chooses is better than what DH gets out though....
Heh, my only issue with DD picking her own clothes most of the time is her insistence on holding onto favourites that are waaaaaaay too small for her. Resulting in her constantly trying to pull up her jeans as they fall down, or acres of plumber-butt. She has alternative options, and I do try to surreptitiously remove the cringe-worthiest.
But other than that she's pretty good when picking clothes, other sometimes not considering the expected weather for the day when coming out with skimpy little shorts. But I just make her walk outside if this is the case, she soon decides to change her outfit to something more appropriate
All the time for DD - and problem is she is hot bod and would live in singlets and shorts if she could, plus she has this thing going on right now where things feel funny, like if she has a long tee over a short tee and the top on top is too tight. Way frustrating. If we are going to a party or somewhere special I will give her a choice of 3 things.
I guess because I'd rather them be independent and really couldn't give two hoots what other people think about the state of my children, I generally don't even notice the dress state of other people's children. As long as their faces are (generally) clean and their teeth are clean, I'm good. The world isn't going to stop because of their dress sense.
I'm also aware (from my own childhood) of not being able to choose what I wore a lot and then fighting and rebelling as a teen....rather not go there. They're easily giuded now, so I hope that builds a good foundation.
They tend to choose better than DP or my mum so I let them choose what to wear most of the time. DD1 can pick a whole outfit and usually looks pretty groovy, DD2 just picks and item and I build the rest of her outfit around that.
My son (6yo) used to come up with the weirdest creations, it's like he wanted to wear every single colour at once, plus half his things were on backwards or inside out! He was so proud of dressing himself that i couldn't make him get changed. Nowadays he is much better at coordinating & looks pretty spunky most of the time.
My daughter (3yo) on the other hand has always been pretty good with this since starting to pick her clothes at 2yo. She had an obsession with her gumboots but could never walk properly in them, but since buying her a pair of pastel pink (her choice) boots she is much better now.
Most of the times I am only concerned with comfort. So I only get them to change if they will be too cold or if I know the shoes will hurt them. For some reason they seem to find the ones that are too big or too small no matter how often I try to get rid of them
I just wish they were better at brushing their hair!
Yes, all the time. I often lay out clothes for DD to wear and if she isn't happy, she'll promptly tell me that she is not wearing that. She has also become picky - no jeans or trackies. I do put my foot down if we are going to a party - she has to wear something nicer like a dress or skirt and some decent shoes.
I let DS pick his clothes every day. Shorts and a jumper with long socks - fine. That's FiL's fashion choice too. Sometimes I'll ask him to put on a shirt, but he picks what he likes.
I buy the clothes (DS picks and I can veto sometimes) and remove them when they need it, so it isn't like he's going out dressed that badly. Just cos I wouldn't wear rust-orange and bright red together doesn't mean DS can't.
ds is not even 11 months yet but I already know that when he starts picking his own clothes I will happily let him wear it no matter what it looks like
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So then a bit of "That's lovely! But how about one of these nice long sleeved options instead?"
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