I guess because I'd rather them be independent and really couldn't give two hoots what other people think about the state of my children, I generally don't even notice the dress state of other people's children. As long as their faces are (generally) clean and their teeth are clean, I'm good. The world isn't going to stop because of their dress sense.

I'm also aware (from my own childhood) of not being able to choose what I wore a lot and then fighting and rebelling as a teen....rather not go there. They're easily giuded now, so I hope that builds a good foundation.