I try and teach my kids to evaluate what I need to know and what I don't. And I strongly believe the only way to stop sobbing is to give them the tools to deal with conflict themselves. I don't think it's unhealthy. I think it's part of growing. I don't want my kids to think they can't come to me if there is a problem. But getting me to sort out every problem for the isn't great either. If they continue to expect me to fix it chances are they don't know how to.