As pp have said, for me it was the huge impact it had on my life compared to dh. I remember when dd was just born and he would go off to work and soccer, or meet a friend for a drink and I would think...wow...life just goes on as normal for him, whereas for me my whole world was turned upside down.

I also found it hard that I was the first of my family and friends to have a baby, so I was very isolated and I felt very much like I'd lost a part of myself.

I really wish I'd taken maternity leave earlier and really spent some time at home to get used to the idea of being a sahm. As it happened I worked until 36 weeks and had dd at 38 so it was a huge shock to not just have a baby but be AT HOME all the time too.

Having kids is the best thing I have ever done, but it takes a while to find your groove. Accept you will be an L plater for a while and try and enjoy the learning curve.