I try to use first person as much as possible. I used to refer to myself in third person but once I started reading about RIE (Respectful Infant Educaring), I made an effort to change. Now, I try to talk to my son as I would like to be talked to, just adjusted for his age. By this, I mean I pause more for him to process information and I dont discuss politics with him yet

If anyone is interested, Janet Lansbury's blog is a very good resource.