We started off with her starting the night off in her bed and then first wake up she was in with us. Now though she comes in from 4.30am before that she is resettled. Unless she is sick though as I will let her sleep with us and feed her to. She was night weaned towards end of pregnancy as her night time feeding was out of control and it was very uncomfortable for me.
So maybe start with that (first wake up in bed with you) so its a more gentle transition??