Its hard. Sometimes I think you have to accept that in this moment in time Miss A is more dependent and needs more of your time, and in the past and the future your other girls will have times when they need more from you than they may at other times. At our house DD1 was gettign jealous as she is the only one at school and feels she is missing out on lots so on the weekedn she has one night where she gets to stay up later than dd2 and we play board games with her for half an hour. DD2 is happy as I read her a book in bed when she goes down early (we normally read on the lounge) so its special for her.

Practical ideas I have found that works are setting up activities beforehand that I can sit with them and chat without having to 'do'. The other day they did painting which I set up earlier when things were good, I supervised and when they were done they washed their own hands and I cleaned up later. Ive also found drawing good as we can talk about what theya re doing without my having to physically do anything accept get the gear out the craft box. On the weekends I try and do one thing with each girl while my DH is there to keep DD3 happy. Puzzles that aren't too hard are good as I can normally manage to direct them if thye are having trouble.

Cooking dinner in the morning is good as it means when I do have a few free minutes later in the day its not spent stressing about getting people fed. I have also found that if DH is not home getting them showered is easier than baths, they find it fun! And I can watch while holding DD3, DD3 has a bath earlier in the day if I have to do the night routine myself