It's funny was just thinking about it and with Iz we will get her to apologise and she cries and carries on at times, then I will say what are you sorry for and sometimes it's way off the mark?! Like today I wanted her to apologise at the shops because she screamed SO loud I think people thought I had tried to murder (yes I was THAT mother at Riot Art) but instead she goes - "sorry for sooking" about something earlier Their perception is so different to ours in our head that sometimes I think we need to be really explicit at why they need to say sorry as well as what they are saying for ITMS? Sort of thinking out loud because we are dealing with some stuff here as well!