My girls pretty much pick their own clothes everyday, I just add or take off what I see appropriate for weather/place sort of thing. If DD2 sees what DD1 has picked she will generally want the same or something very close. It really has never crossed my mind at all that someone would ever think that if my girls were dressed the same or similar that it is cruel. Maybe she had to and only has bad memories. I also wonder if she would be inclined to think that 90% of what DD2 wears DD1 use to wear?

Oh well, like I said, wont stop me or my girls as long as we are all happy, I don't give two hoots what she or anyone thinks.