Couldn't read and not post, huge massive hugs, it is so hard in the early weeks juggling 2 wee little ones so close together, mine are 17 mths apart as well and its tough. I would say your DD is maybe acting out for some attention like mine did and it's so hard because you barely have days you can scratch yourself or find the energy for a shower. It does get easier and you are not failing hun, not by any shot... DS slept in the bouncer for ages for day sleeps because he would be in it while I did stuff and would fall asleep without me realising, and the MCHN had a go at me and said a big stuff you, it's working for now, won't be forever and we will deal with it and we did and he is a great cot sleeper!

I've had a horrible couple of weeks with mine and am feeling like a terrible mother too right now but I keep telling myself it is a phase and "this too will pass"