I completely understand where you are coming from! DD1 and DS1 were born 12 months apart and I cringe at the things I expected from her because she was my eldest and I didn't realise how little she really was. In hindsight, and with other babies in my house, I know I expected too much of her and treated her older than she was. When I realised, I felt sad about what I had done also

I'm so glad for you though that things are improving with you and your DD1. Kids are very forgiving which is one of the most beautiful things about them. Their ability to love us unconditionally. Enjoy both your babies and don't beat yourself up about it. You are doing a good job. It's not easy juggling kids and making sure everyone is getting what they need (including you).

Huge coming your way.