Thanks for your replies everyone. I have placed a hold for 123 magic at my local library. In the meantime I am finding list of ways to praise, picking my battles and going back to giving her 2 choices with a positive outcome for me. Seems to be working most of the time and now that its the weekend I should be able to rest up and kick this cough. Definitely all related to how tired I am right now as well. Thanks again xox