Its great to read that you've found the right balance for you and your family Fiona. I think that's what all of us should concentrate on - what suits US, not what "they" say is the right thing to do. In fact, whoever "they" are, they should just keep their opinions to themselves! Its such a shame that so much of the time there is no consideration given to the fact that we don't lose our individuality when we become a mother, and that we all have different personalities and need different things to keep us all happy, content and satisfied with life.