my DD is about the same age as your LS and is doing the same. I am also getting a lot of "you hate me!" when I tell her off. I think there is a lot of this sort of stuff (I hate you/you don't like me/I don't want to be your friend) sort of stuff at Kinder. It's driving me nuts.

I also have the same concerns as you re: school. In fact, I thought you were writing about our exact situation and life here!!!!

My tactics at the moment are things like

"that's a shame because I like you"

"That's a shame because I love you"

"No honey, I do love you, I just don't love your behavior"