Important..Must Read This..

[leesha]

I read threads in here and think that sometimes what is said is not that supportive and that is not what BB is about.
I was reminded today and wanted to share

Being a good mother does not come from,
The way you give birth, breast or bottles.
It does not come from what nappies you use,
Or any of the other things that so many become obsessed with.
Obsessed to the point of attacking each other,
Or doubting ones own abilities.

Your children will not remember how they were born,
Or what milk they were fed,
Or what you wrapped their bottom in.

They will remember the kisses, cuddles and games of Peek A Boo,
Your warmth, smell and the safety they feel when they are with you.

But most of all they will LOVE YOU,
because YOU LOVE THEM.
That is what matters.


Author unknown

[nothing2lose]

Amen to that! Thank you for posting

[emmjayt]

I love this. I didn't want to become a mum so that I could compete with others whether I was doing it "better". I hope like heck that I'm a good mum because my daughter is happy and healthy. That's all I really care about

[murraycod]

Author Unknown has made a valid point

[EsJay]

I love this, its so very true. We all need a little reminder now and again that none of it matters just love and enjoy your babies cos they arent babies for long x

[Three Graces]

oh and a fridge full of food. That seems to matter most to my boys at present. Some days I think they'd take food over mummy's love!

Great thread, thanks for posting!

[Charlotte91]

Oh, I saw that on Bottle Babies and Fearless Formula Feeders. Amazing post

[sahbear]

*like!!!

[Kazzo]

Thanks for posting this

[Frangipani Lou]

Fantastic. Xo

[HotI]

i am passionate about the way my baby was born, because my health, my baby's health and parenting was affected first time around when my birth was not so good.

i am enthusiastic about the way i feed my babies, cos it's not always easy or fun, but i believe it is best for them. i have friends who have had difficulty feeding their babies, and this has affected how they parent. Not due to the method of feeding, but because of their feelings surrounding feeding. Supporting them, even if things don't go as planned, can positively influence their parenting. Saying that it doesn't matter doesn't help the woman if she thinks that it does matter.

[Starfish]

I agree with HotI - different things matter to different people and we need to respect this and not brush off others' concerns. But it is clear what the OP means, and I think it's a good message.

[PollyA]

Your parenting choices can matter to you, the message is these kind of choices do not define "good" or "bad" parents

[Jaycee]

Geez, some people will debate anything!

If you're passionate about your parenting choices, that's great. That's not what this thread is about.

The message here is that love is more important than anything. People should remember that.

[Sagres]

LIKE! Thanks for posting.

and that is not what BB is about.

I kinda disagree with part of this. I would say BB should be about being supportive but in reality it is not. Harsh judgement is a very real part of the threads I read here (and mostly don't contribute to because judgement is not how I roll and I don't care to give it more air time than it has already had). It would be FANTASTIC if BB was supportive to all women but from my view of the world it is not.

Also, when thinking about being supportive, I think it is necessary to make the distinction between A) 'I support you because you have made the same choice as I have' (thus validating me and my choices) and B) 'I support you in what ever you do because you are a fellow woman trying to do the best you can just like I am, regardless of whether I would make the same choices'. I think BB has lots of the A kind of support, but when I say I think it should be about being supportive I guess I mean I think it should be more about the B type of support.

[LuluHB]

Its one of the greatest sadnesses I have found in motherhood that so many turn it into either an extreme sport or a cause, instead of just getting on with doing what you choose for your own family while supporting others in their choices, whether they would be your choice or not.

I think the OP's message is perfect - make your decisions from a place of love for your child and yourself and all will be good.

[glenny_c]

Wow! I can't believe people found something about the OP to disagree with. Only on BB! I love, love, love the OP!!

[leesha]

Geez, some people will debate anything!

If you're passionate about your parenting choices, that's great. That's not what this thread is about.

The message here is that love is more important than anything. People should remember that.

Yep exactly the point of this thread