We have 3 boys all 15mths and under apart. We want one more child. We werent trying but werent preventing and got a + in Sept but unfortunately the baby died at 8wks and I had a d&c.

Im still waiting on the spotting to stop but when to TTC again is on my mind. We always thought about having them all close together to avoid a "lag" so to speak in the baby years. If we TTC when AF has come and gone we would only have until Jan (possibly Feb) to get a + otherwise we would have to stop until as late as Jan 2012 because getting pregnant in March/April would make me due at christmas/new year which is when we are due to move again next year and I do not want a newborn or to be heavily pregnant at that time. Dh is also supposed to be going away in June for 6mths so without him here no baby making is happening

I was just wondering if there was anyone on BB who had a couple of kids close together and then had the last one 3 or more years later than the rest? My main concerns are getting beyond that baby/toddler stage and then doing it all over again. Right now none of the kids sleep through and Ive still got 2 in nappies. Im imagining by the time I could possibly get pregnant and then give birth we're looking at 2013 which makes our youngest just about 4 years old; with the elder two at primary school. Also; I worry about the last child feeling left out being so far behind the rest in age, esp if its another boy.

Ive been thinking of just skipping TTC the next 3 or so months and just waiting til Jan 2012; that way I can go back to Uni next year and have a bit of a life while Ive not got any little babies to feed/worry about...........

Any advice or experiences you could share are greatly appreciated!!!