Large age gaps between kids?

[mrsmac]

I don't have any close together so cannot really comment on that side of it. I think children cope with whatever their reality is IYKWIM? I think that if you had a little one later they would be so adored by their older siblings and you would really get to appreciate every minute of their babyhood because you aren't as rushed with the others being all small as well. I am biased because I love my age gaps though!!

[Arimeh]

Your reasons were the same as why ours are so close together. However, that is based on the fact that there is 7 years between my brother and I, and 5 years between my sister and I. I never felt close to either of them growing up and always felt left out, and didn't want that for my kids.

But that doesn't mean that it can't work for your family. I say go with whenever it happens and try not to think about it too much

[megs]

Hi Freya,

My first 2 are 16 months apart, we then had our 3rd boy and he is 2 half years younger, like you I was worried that he would seem like the odd one out, but he is now 18 months and is the life of the party, if anything they fight over who is playing with him rather than he being left out.

I have finally got the go ahead from DH to start TTC 4 (am very excited) but there will be another gap of min 2 half years to 3 years depending on when I conceive. Like you I was worried about going back to basics again but the one thing I did find with having DS 3 was that you acutally have more time to appreciate the small moments of having a newborn rather than being constantly trying to juggle babies, toddlers etc.

So I think maybe the time to recover , have time to yourself, move etc may be a good thing and then when your next bubba arrives you will have the time to relax and enjoy every little moment

[~clover~]

I do have to say I'm alot closer to my bro, 2 years younger, than I've ever been to my sister, 6 years younger. I think thats more to do with her maturity level though. She's really immature... Maybe one day we'll be closer, but I can't see it happening.
I tried to keep similar gaps between mine, but far enough apart that I wasn't changing 2 lots of nappies, lol.

[maz]

I had N and W within 18 months of each other.......then V was born when W was 4 3/4.

I love having my babies close together and yep at times I htink why did I go back and have 2 more...BUT I found I have more patience and time for them...not everything in the house has to be perfect and we are absolutely nutters, something I wasnt keen on being with jsut the 2 boys.

I found the only trouble was sleep/nap time with a small baby hard with kinder and school drop off and pick ups, and knowing that having one so young in age to the other 2 ment I of course had to go back for another cause they needed a sibling closer in age top them

[Beatrix]

Freya

I will end up having a rather large gap with our last baby.. as M would like one of his own (dont worry he treats the girls as his own as well but YKWIM)

so M will prob be about to hit school by the time the last bubs comes along and omg im worried, but i also think to myself that it will be good.. I will have 3 in school allowing me to relate to new bubs well. Plus not to mention having 3 older helper..

and for what its worth I have a older brother less then 2 yrs between us and a younger sis who is 5 yrs younger and we all actually get along great now.