Large age gaps between kids?

[Jennifer13]

Hi Freya

I am not that far apart from my two sisters, 2 and a bit years b/w each of us. I wasn't really that close to them growing up and sought out the company of my bff who was three years older than me. DP and his brother, 3 years older, are not close at all and growing up there were a lot of bullying issues.

Now I'm an adult I am probably closest to my youngest sister, four and a half years younger. But it's taken a long time to get to the same 'stage' in life (my middle sister doesn't look like having kids any time soon!).

We made the decision to leave at least four-five years between our children, for my sake and so that we could spend more time one-on-one with each child. I don't know how my Mum juggled three of us close together, but I do know we didn't get much of that individual attention. I wanted to do that more with my DD, I thought it might stop some of the jealousy issues I had with my siblings when young.

Also, I work for myself = no maternity leave. No way could I juggle more than one at a time and still fit work in. DP also works for himself = no time off. You get the idea...

DD is VERY excited about the idea of a younger sister (or brother, but not quite as keen LOL) so I'm quite happy we'll have between five and six years gap. She's going to be very much involved in the whole process (even if she can't choose the gender, to her dismay!).

I'm actually excited at the idea of going back to the baby stuff, it's not new, I'm going to savour it a lot more (knowing that I more than likely won't be doing it again) and I've got a whole other perspective on it with DD involved. I'm hoping it all comes back to me!