my DD is too much of a handful. .. is it my parenting or her ???

[*Efjay*]

Wow thats a full on little girl you have there! Hats off to you having to put up with that day in day out.

You know what I think if I was you I would go & discuss with your pead about her behaviour. She may have some sort of sensory issue or a spectrum disorder that would explain a lot of her behaviours.

I don't think her behaviour is "normal" well it is but not to that extent. After all kids are kids but she does sound really full on & I think you should go speak with your pead & see what they think.

My DD is what you could call a brat. Spoiled not so much but Brat YES. She has a princess diva complex when drives me nuts!

[Yeddi]

Wow thats a full on little girl you have there! Hats off to you having to put up with that day in day out.

You know what I think if I was you I would go & discuss with your pead about her behaviour. She may have some sort of sensory issue or a spectrum disorder that would explain a lot of her behaviours.

^Yeah, that^

Sounds as though she is sensory seeking and could have a PPD.

Custard on picture = tactile sensory seeking
dinner HAS to be COLD .... not HOT = sensory avoidance
she tips flour everywhere = tactile sensory seeking
break things = tactile and auditory sensory seeking
squeezing out the toothpaste and rubbing it in to the floor = tactile sensory seeking
tipping her milk into the cup holders of our lounge = tactile sensory seeking
refuses to have a blanket on = sensory avoidance
most days will not wear any clothes at all = sensory avoidance...

Doing one or two of these things is fairly normal, but not all of them, there's a bit of a pattern going on there!

Time outs, smacking, removing toys etc. will not work, because this isn't about a lack of discipline. This is about a sensory drug addict looking for their next fix and not being able to handle certain stimuli. Trust me, I know, my DD is sensory seeking too. The only way to deal with this behaviour is to manage it by steering it towards more appropriate avenues, because asking them not to seek or avoid certain textures is akin to asking them not to breathe - they can't not do it. It might be worth seeing an OT and getting a sensory profile done, so you know where you need to provide a sensory fix and what textures you need to be light handed with.

[Shanti]

Do you have a big yard where she can run around?? Burn energy that way? Some toddlers just have ALOT of energy and need to burn it off. Does she go to playgroup?

[sconeonamission]

we visited our grandmother (mum's mum) the other day and she screamed and carried on coz she wanted to play with the water running in the patients bathroom basin... Just to add another thing she does... Oh! And she must take her shoes off when using the toilet...

I have no idea how you do it at all! She's too much for me!

[*charmalea*]

id forgotten about the water thing ren ...... she does just stand at the sink all day and let the water run over her hands .... and she must take her shoes , undies and pants and if we are at home, her top off to pee too !!

Yeddi ... WOW you really opened my eyes .... reading your post reminded me about the other day when i was talking to my neighbour gabbi had pulled something from her laundry and was running around rubbing it all over her ... we were making a joke of it and i said , " shes such a tactile kid , likes different textures "

i was beginning to think she may have ADHD , but this really opened my mind yeddi . she has alot of food issues , and after a endoscopy has been given the all clear to eat all foods , she has IBS ( toddlers diarreah, or in other words " no idea whats wrong with your DD , so we'll call it IBS ) and suffers fuctose intolerance etc , so when she was little her Pead , warned me she may be irratable and agitated , as babies with her kids of problems tend to be . she has a history of reflux , also has sleep apnea and will be getting tonsils and adenoids out in april ....

i dont know if these are related to the sensory issues . but it might be

i called my pead the other day to get an appt . but they said hes too busy and just to email him :0 i will so some reasearch on this ... as its just dawned on me that DD may have a problem ........ and its just a bit much right now ...

[nothing2lose]

You poor thing!

I don't know much about sensory disorders but DD has ADHD and I know there is a link between IBS and ADHD (and other disorders on the spectrum).

Definitely take her to a paediatric specialist.

Good luck!!

n2l

[*Efjay*]

Now the light bulb has come on, do lots of reading & ask lots of questions & things will get easier