my DD is too much of a handful. .. is it my parenting or her ???

[mrsmac]

I would try to get her to an OT, they can diagnose sensory issues and also help you with them. They'd be better than a paed if it is sensory. Your DD sounds a lot like my DS, he reacts to some food additives and has a sensory procesing disorder. He craves some sensory feeling but hates really loud noises.

The book "The Out of synch child" is a great read, its about sensory kids.

[*charmalea*]

thanks all , i cant wait till her OP and she has her tonsils and adenoids out , im hoping it will make a difference .

a PP mentioned how is her bedtime? wel its not too bad , not many tanties ( unless she extremly over tired ) BUT when shes in be i lay with her and for 45 mins or so all she does is talk to her self and roll around the bed , its like at bedtime she has ants in her pants , then she finally drifts off .... but when she wakes up , u need to tread on egg shells incase you do the wrong thing ( like sereve the wrong breakky ) she is super cranky in the morning ...

i have talked to DH about this and we aerr going to keep a list of what/when / where and then take them to our pead .

[aussienic]

I don't know if this will work in your case but we just started a new thing yesterday..

I made traffic lights for the fridge. and all of our names are in the green, yelling and bad behaviour gets your nme moved to yellow and if that behaviour doesn't stop you get moved to red which gets you a time out according to age. so Olivia gets 3 mins (if you watch supernanny? I ask for an apology and a reason for why I want the apology and if I don't get it then she gets another 3 mins yesterday she ended up in time out for 9 mins) Hitting gets you an instant red dot and a time out there is no warning.

This morning Olivia started yelling at me. I asked her to stop and said if you don't start bening nice I will move you to the yellow dot. The behaviour didn't stop so she went on yellow and apparently she didn't like that so she threw her water bottle so ended up with a 3 min time out. after 3 mins I got an apology

I don't think it is going to work miracles but i am finding myself calmer so the situation calms down a lot faster. My name and Dh's name are also on the lights so if we yell or smack or whatever we have to move our names to (dh said he might just smack the kids (jks) to get a 35 min timeout ) ps he rarely smacks the kids so was joking

i am not sure if your DD would be old enough but it can't hurt to try?

[*charmalea*]

its a great idea ! i could try , i know it would work with DS maybe not DD ... she just doesnt seem to "get" discipline .... LOL at your hubby ... DW i dont think u smack ur kids ... any thing to get half an hour time out

[Yeddi]

Sensory kids (if not most kids) do better with time ins rather than time outs. If she is being naughty, give her a job like watering the plants or sweeping with the dustpan and brush and then praise, praise, praise (even if it's the shoddy, you can work on doing it properly as time goes along). Not only will it redirect the energy and give them a texture fix, it will give them a sense of achievement.

[mrsmac]

I agree with Yeddi- these quirky kids just don't care about behaviour modification charts like that sadly. When DS is in the middle of a meltdown he needs to be held tightly and calmly until he calms down.