thanks all , i cant wait till her OP and she has her tonsils and adenoids out , im hoping it will make a difference .

a PP mentioned how is her bedtime? wel its not too bad , not many tanties ( unless she extremly over tired ) BUT when shes in be i lay with her and for 45 mins or so all she does is talk to her self and roll around the bed , its like at bedtime she has ants in her pants , then she finally drifts off .... but when she wakes up , u need to tread on egg shells incase you do the wrong thing ( like sereve the wrong breakky ) she is super cranky in the morning ...

i have talked to DH about this and we aerr going to keep a list of what/when / where and then take them to our pead .