This is going to be a very long post so please be patient with me

A bit of background first. It took me 3 years and 2 miscarriages to get dd, from the moment she was born i have never left her side. She was from the get go a clingy (sp?) baby. I remember sitting in the hospital 3 days after having her and the midwife made a comment saying that chloe was going to be clingy, oh how right she was!! as a baby chloe always need to be with me, she would never settle for anyone else, that in its self took its toll on me as it was very hard, i never got a break and i was always tired as she was a very rough sleeper. But from about the age of 1 she started to sleep with me as i was just so tired i gave in and for the first time in a whole year, i got my first night of unbroken sleep and it was all because chloe was with me, where she could touch me and still feel that i was there with her when she was starting to get unsettled. So i allowed her to stay in our bed, which i didnt mind cos we were all getting sleep and we were all happy.

But fast forward to now, she is still in my room. She doesnt sleep with me all the time, only when dh is away she will be in my bed, but when dh is home she will sleep on the floor with her matteress. I have tried EVERYTHING to try and get her in her room. I have tv,dvds,Playstation and all of that sort of stuff set up in there, but she doesnt want to stay in there! I have put my parenting hat on and told she had to stay in there, only to have her up and down all night coming into my room crying and caring on, she got her self worked up that much that she was dry reaching in the toilet cos she so desperatly didnt want to go in there to sleep! I have tried to tell her i would buy her anything she wanted if she could would sleep in there for a night, but that hasnt worked. I have even tried to stay in there with her but that didnt work, she wouldnt go to sleep and kept saying she wanted to go back in my room.

But even though she doesnt sleep with me all the time, when she goes to visit her dad she always sleeps with him!! i have asked him to not allow this to happen anymore as it makes it hard for me when she gets home as she wants to sleep with me, but of course he just told me to go jump off a bridge and not to tell him what he can and cant do with his daughter i have tried to tell him that this is becoming a problem but he doesnt care!

Chloe is still very clingy! she hates being apart from me, she has a massive break down when it comes time to go to her dads every 3 wks, she wont sleep over at any of her friends places, she wont sleep at any family members places. But i believe that this is because she is always being MADE to go to her dads, that when she is home, all she wants to do is be home and not go anywhere else, if that makes sense?? but you have to understand, chloe and i have been through ALOT together. its always been just her and i. I was married to her father but our marriage broke down a year after she was born. so her and i have been through alot. anyone and everyone that know us will tell you that chloe and i have a bond like no other. and thats why she goes into meltdown when its time to go to her dads. she loves her dad but HATES being apart from me.

Sorry if none of this is making sense, i am in a bit of a hurry as i am about to go to work, but i just needed to get this out.

Help me, what am i suppose to do? how can i get my gorgeous little girl sleeping in her own room?