Raising girls is starting to scare me!

[Beatrix]

Lol I wonder if df ever took into consideration 4 hormonal women when he proposed.

I would worry if I had boys to but I mean this in no disrespect to anyone with boys but teen fathers can walk away a hell of alot easier then teen mothers. And what scared me the most was these young children seemed so eager to please there somewhat older partner.

Trill want some company on that farm and say 5 years? Lol.

[tan32]

yes very scary. I have a 12 yr old girl who starts high school next year. YIKES i am packing it.
She is pretty naive about sex and at the moment isnt interested in the boy thing at all. She is just happy being a kid.
She did say to me a few weeks ago about some of the girls in her class who are obsessed with a boy at school, her take is I don't want to be like that Mum they go stupid. I want to get a good job instead.
lol lets see how long that attitude lasts. Hoping for a while yet..

[meow]

I would worry if I had boys to but I mean this in no disrespect to anyone with boys but teen fathers can walk away a hell of alot easier then teen mothers. And what scared me the most was these young children seemed so eager to please there somewhat older partner.

Fair point... but there is a lot more to unprotected sex than conception.

I agree about the age difference issue. I hope my boys are NOT 15 year olds getting blow jobs from 10 year olds. It's sickening and shows no respect to those girls.

[Trillian]

Fair point... but there is a lot more to unprotected sex than conception.

I agree about the age difference issue. I hope my boys are NOT 15 year olds getting blow jobs from 10 year olds. It's sickening and shows no respect to those girls.

A few weeks ago I was sitting outside a cafe after school and there was a group of boys I know are only in year 8 at school - so 14yo tops. A girl came up to them and the way one of the boys was speaking to her was just appalling and there was absolutely no respect for her. Now I know this kid (as you do in a small country town) and he's an australian champion dirt track motorcycle rider so there is a massive ego involved as well and he was playing the 'tough guy' and his mates were laughing and egging him on, but what worried me the most is that this girl would go away for a bit after he'd slagged her off, then she'd come back again all smiles and giggles and I felt really sad for her that being spoken to like that was a game to her. I wish she had the courage to tell him to **** off, because that's what he deserved. I would be horrified if I ever found out that one of my boys was treating girls so disrespectfully and equally as horrified if one of my girls thought that was an appropriate way to be spoken to. What I also thought of, was that this is a group of young people who are only just starting to find themselves kwim? What are they going to be like at 18 or even 25?

[Pretty Butterfly]

Scary isnt it???

I *hope* I have taught my DD well so far... and I think I have taught her more about getting diseases than pregnancy, she knows all about that with all the kids here!!!

She's a tough cookie, but very nieve(sp?), so I gotta stay on top of things!!
She dumped her b/f cause he was mean to her friends, then she felt bad about it.. I told her no way, you stand up for yourself, and if he is horrible to your frinnds, he's a jerk... she stood her ground and stayed away from him. She has self confidence, but she can be a bit dense, poor chook!!

Side note, I have access to her ph and FB.. and there was a debate on whether she should kiss her b/f or not... a MAJOR decision to her... and I was happy to see that it WAS a big decision to her... very proud.
I asked her was she ready to take on his germs and be so serious... NOPE... thank god!!!

Wer'e on the right track, for now... high school in a few weeks!!! EEEEKKKKK!!!!

[RockingBaker]

Im scared with 4 girls. DS is already a very protective older brother and I hope he keeps it up!

[KimB]

As a mum who has already been through the initial stage of teenagehood I can tell you all it is very hard. I thought I had brought DD1 up as a reasonably confident young lady only to see that she decided to be a bit of a sheep and follow the bad crowd. She was caught drinking and smoking so at age 14 we had to get the contraceptive implant put in by our GP who also gave her the 3rd degree and told her how stupid she was being. We now have DS1 reaching preteen years and starting to branch out. His temper is foul and he takes it out on everyone. I still have 1 more DS to go and then 3 more DD's and I'm not sure if I can cope if they all end up like this. It really is an obstacle course navigating the teen and preteen years and you just have to be very flexible in your approach. Maintain the house rules and the respect that you require and hopefully they will get it sooner rather than later.