Raising girls is starting to scare me!

[Beatrix]

Ok so I got this new app for my iPhone called pink pad (tracking af, ovulation etc) and it has a forum attached to it which is frequented by alot of young girls.

Many stating they we having sex and giving/recording oral as young as 10.

This scares me so much as its way to young and seems girls are just getting younger when they lose their virginity.

I know how I parent will give my girls the right tools to make the right decisions but then even some things are out of my control.

Scary to think these young kids are doing these things.

[Boo Boo]

Jeepers, I really hope joining a nunnery will be the "in thing to do" when DD approaches the teen years. It is soooo scary, give me sleep deprivation and toddler tantrums any day.

xxx

[turtleschell]

I know, I'm scared too!

[Trillian]

This is why I"m glad we live on a farm 42km from town LOL, we can keep them relatively safe from it. It scares the crap out of me to think that my girls could be doing that in a few shorts years but I'd like to think that we can raise them good enough so they don't need to do that sort of thing.

[Arimeh]

This is why I only wanted to have one girl - amongst a pile of boys she would be a tomboy and not that much interested in boys in that way.. LOL

Sadly I'll have 3 bloody girls, and knowing my genes, they'll be a bit of a scrub like I was.. LOL

[MrsFabuloso]

Scares the life outta me too! I'm so worried for my DD when she's older. I worry for DS too. Kids are just in waaayyyy too much of a hurry to grow up now! I had no idea about oral sex, nor much about sex at all when I was 10...I was sooo niave, still a child at 10.

[~Lashes~]

thats why df wants to get a shot gun! he wasnt keen on having girls because of how his sisters are, now we have a seccond girl on the way, hes getting his "stand over dad" ideas out... and trying to "brainwash" the boys into being stand over brothers just hope they dont take after there aunts....

[meow]

I feel just as scared for my boys. Was just thinking about it yesterday. Not only do I not want them maturing too fast, I also want them to learn respect for women so that it shouldn't seem okay to be doing that with a 10 year old girl.

[Trillian]

Scares the life outta me too! I'm so worried for my DD when she's older. I worry for DS too. Kids are just in waaayyyy too much of a hurry to grow up now! I had no idea about oral sex, nor much about sex at all when I was 10...I was sooo niave, still a child at 10.

By 10 I had a fair idea about sex - Mum was very open with me and there wasn't anything we couldn't talk about, but of course I had no idea what oral sex was or anything like that. I think knowing about it already made me a lot less inquisitive about it when I was a bit older and I didn't have to actually do things to find out what they were. By 13 though I was in with a rough crowd and knew it all then, still wasn't participating, but I was witness to other people doing a lot of it unfortunately. I think that is the part that worries me the most, I know what things were like when I was a young teen, and I know how casual things have gotten now and that there doesn't seem to be any secrets between groups of kids and I hate in a few short years my kids will be part of that casual culture of sex kwim?

[beckoes]

i know what you mean!!!! dd is only 2 but i still think about it already.

I have a 14 your old sister in the uk and the last year had really been a roller coster! she is so into boys and is now going out to partys, stealing my mums booze, getting drunk, acting up and the clothes she wears i do not find appropriate for a 14 year old. i have talked to my mum but she is pretty cluless, and doesnt stick by any punishment long enough for it to be effective.

i think you right, you just have to bring them up right and give them the tools to make the right choices and basically hope for the best! a friend of mine who is a fantastic mum and has two kids in thier teens said to me the other day ''they go through stages, when the are born till about 5 years old you have to be right on top of them, guiding them through every decision they make, then from about 5 to 11 you can back off a bit and let them learn for them selves and be more independant, then from 11 you have to be right back on top of them again, guiding them through everything again''

i think thats great advice and her kids talk to her about everything and are good kids....dont get me wrong they get up to normal teenager stuff but they always ask thier mum about situations and she has given them the tools and the power to say no or question a situation, where as my sister just follows the croud and wants to be cool and popular and will do whatever and not think or the bad or reprocutions of a situation.

Teenagerhood terrifies me.....please stay babies forever!

[Tuesday's Child]

When we found out we were having a girl, DH said he needed another shotgun so that he'd have one for each arm...lol

The only bit of parenting advice my mum gave me before she died was "When she's growing up always listen to her, no matter how trivial it seems. Then when she's a teenager she'll know that she can talk to you about anything". Even though we've got years to go yet, it's another reason I'm glad for BB, I'll have the benefit of others sharing their experiences

[*Sparklez*]

i agree, i have 3 boys n one girl so i dont think she would be able to get away with much even if she tried..
i worry bout my boys alot as i know that they are very impressionable in the teen yrs n i dont wanna think of what they will get upto n the area i am in too is just full of young naive kids... srsly i hope that my boys dont go out n think its cool to lay someone down to look cool in front of his mates..
i realy would rather they all wait till their married as a very young mum n a single one at that i know first hand exactly how hard n cruel this world can be i never wanna see them unhappy or having a child they never wanted cus no one thought before hand about contraception or even a disease that will ruin their lives..
as for dd i hope that she just gets to be a kid while she is one cus these days they are al growing to fast n thinking they are mature enough at 14 to do everything us adults do n wouldnt do iykwim...
this whole thought n etc is scary i have 4 yrs till my ds is 14 n 5 till my other ds is 14
im literaly ready to get a cage n chastity belts out n use them lol

[*Sparklez*]

ohhhh nooooo.... lol
my dd isnt even 2 months old n i have already started thinking of how im gonna turn my dd into a nun lol
i dont like how it is these days i find that everything even for young girls is to do with sex.. from clothing to shoes to phones to lip gloss etc everything is about sex or how sexy they look...
i just pray that my dd doesnt fall into all that crap when she gets older..
my mum says if she is anything like me when she gets older then god help me... p.s i wasnt even that bad at all... lol

[*Sparklez*]

kim i offer u a massive n a tbig thank u lol cus u r scaring the crap outta me lol
i dont wanna go through any of thisssssssss!!!!

[Beatrix]

Lol I wonder if df ever took into consideration 4 hormonal women when he proposed.

I would worry if I had boys to but I mean this in no disrespect to anyone with boys but teen fathers can walk away a hell of alot easier then teen mothers. And what scared me the most was these young children seemed so eager to please there somewhat older partner.

Trill want some company on that farm and say 5 years? Lol.

[tan32]

yes very scary. I have a 12 yr old girl who starts high school next year. YIKES i am packing it.
She is pretty naive about sex and at the moment isnt interested in the boy thing at all. She is just happy being a kid.
She did say to me a few weeks ago about some of the girls in her class who are obsessed with a boy at school, her take is I don't want to be like that Mum they go stupid. I want to get a good job instead.
lol lets see how long that attitude lasts. Hoping for a while yet..

[meow]

I would worry if I had boys to but I mean this in no disrespect to anyone with boys but teen fathers can walk away a hell of alot easier then teen mothers. And what scared me the most was these young children seemed so eager to please there somewhat older partner.

Fair point... but there is a lot more to unprotected sex than conception.

I agree about the age difference issue. I hope my boys are NOT 15 year olds getting blow jobs from 10 year olds. It's sickening and shows no respect to those girls.

[Trillian]

Fair point... but there is a lot more to unprotected sex than conception.

I agree about the age difference issue. I hope my boys are NOT 15 year olds getting blow jobs from 10 year olds. It's sickening and shows no respect to those girls.

A few weeks ago I was sitting outside a cafe after school and there was a group of boys I know are only in year 8 at school - so 14yo tops. A girl came up to them and the way one of the boys was speaking to her was just appalling and there was absolutely no respect for her. Now I know this kid (as you do in a small country town) and he's an australian champion dirt track motorcycle rider so there is a massive ego involved as well and he was playing the 'tough guy' and his mates were laughing and egging him on, but what worried me the most is that this girl would go away for a bit after he'd slagged her off, then she'd come back again all smiles and giggles and I felt really sad for her that being spoken to like that was a game to her. I wish she had the courage to tell him to **** off, because that's what he deserved. I would be horrified if I ever found out that one of my boys was treating girls so disrespectfully and equally as horrified if one of my girls thought that was an appropriate way to be spoken to. What I also thought of, was that this is a group of young people who are only just starting to find themselves kwim? What are they going to be like at 18 or even 25?