i know what you mean!!!! dd is only 2 but i still think about it already.

I have a 14 your old sister in the uk and the last year had really been a roller coster! she is so into boys and is now going out to partys, stealing my mums booze, getting drunk, acting up and the clothes she wears i do not find appropriate for a 14 year old. i have talked to my mum but she is pretty cluless, and doesnt stick by any punishment long enough for it to be effective.

i think you right, you just have to bring them up right and give them the tools to make the right choices and basically hope for the best! a friend of mine who is a fantastic mum and has two kids in thier teens said to me the other day ''they go through stages, when the are born till about 5 years old you have to be right on top of them, guiding them through every decision they make, then from about 5 to 11 you can back off a bit and let them learn for them selves and be more independant, then from 11 you have to be right back on top of them again, guiding them through everything again''

i think thats great advice and her kids talk to her about everything and are good kids....dont get me wrong they get up to normal teenager stuff but they always ask thier mum about situations and she has given them the tools and the power to say no or question a situation, where as my sister just follows the croud and wants to be cool and popular and will do whatever and not think or the bad or reprocutions of a situation.

Teenagerhood terrifies me.....please stay babies forever!