I have recently become part of a mothers group. There are about 8 of us all up, with children ranging from 4yrs to newborn. They are mums from the playgroup we go to and we also get to together once a week at each other's houses. Some of us also see each other randomly through the week, look after each other's children on occaision and have other play dates together ect.
Anyway, there is one mum, W, she has two children a boy and girl, B- 4yrs and A- 2yrs. These children regularly cause issues between the other children. They will push, hit, snatch, tip sand on other children (and each other) lots of other not-nice stuff. W either doesn't deal with the issues and her child/ren, or will be very blase about it and say things pretty unconvincingly to her child/ren. It is becoming an issue with the other mums and they would like to try to talk to her and adress the issues. Noone wants to upset her, or ostricise her, but we need her to deal with her children.
There is another issue which I see, and that is that she has recently lost a baby at term. I don't know exactly what happened, have been told she was airlifted out of town (we live in a small remote community) and only know that she was very pregnant several months ago and now she's not and doesn't have a baby either. So I assume either the baby passed in utero, or shortly after birth. So I would assume she is fairly upset about it, and possibly struggling or suffering with depression or something after losing bub.
But we still need to deal with the other issues with her kids playing so roughly with the others. How would you do it? *I* don't really feel I know her well enough to talk to her and have not been in a position with my own children to need to, but I have seen these children in action. They can be nasty and will purposefully do things to others. How could we address this with her in a tactful way?
Help!