Thanks for all your suggestions DH has been away for 24 days so am just at wits end and no patience and I think he is taking his cue from that as well. I didn't want to take the stickers away either but threatened it because I was so jacked off - turns out it worked because he went to sleep without carrying on, probably from exhaustion.

I don't want to take teddy either as you said Kel it's not related at all to what he is doing but so hard when what is related doesn't bother him ITMS? I have threatened to take him in the past but never have (that's probably my problem half the time!!)

Will keep plugging away and try all these suggestions as well as maybe starting to help him so he starts but then saying, you keep going and I will be back and slowly getting him to do it himself. Thanks again xoxo