Santa? Yes or No?

[*Twinkle*]

We most definitely do the Santa thing. Kids need some magic and to use their imaginations.


Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk

[PumpkinZulu]

Yep Santa over here too

[PumpkinZulu]

Glad someone bumped this thread - cheers, Bloom.

I am going to "kill Christmas" for all my sister's children, when she has them.

Hmmm, I hope this isn't true. I get you're upset that your son now wants to believe in 'farmer' christmas (too cute!!) because sister and your mother didn't respect your parenting choices, but killing christmas for innocent children to get back at another adult is really mean

I'd just do what N2L said Good ol' Farmer Xmas

[boomba]

Hmmm, I hope this isn't true. I get you're upset that your son now wants to believe in 'farmer' christmas (too cute!!) because sister and your mother didn't respect your parenting choices, but killing christmas for innocent children to get back at another adult is really mean

I'd just do what N2L said Good ol' Farmer Xmas

I agree. Maybe you need to be sterner with your family in telling them you dont like it?

[briggsy's girl]

FB, is it's possible it's come from day care/kindy as well as your family?? it may not be entirely your family at fault...

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Last year they did have a man in a suit at nursery - DS knew it was a man in a suit. No worries there. Didn't even ask his name. He was completely unphased by the Santa thing right up until the 27th/28th of December last year.

My mother especially, but also my sister (who thinks I'm cruel) go on and on about it. I'm sure it has been seeing the people in the outfits that partially triggered it (especially yesterday), but it was the Peppa Pig Christmas DVD and the awful Polar Express DVD that my mother put on endlessly whenever I left the room for DS last year that really cemented it. DS started talking about men coming down chimneys with presents that week. Then had nightmares about people coming down the chimney into his bedroom while he slept when we got back home.

It could be from school, sure. But why did DS leave it until he had been on the phone to my mother to bring it up with me this year? Especially with the "Farmer Christmas" thing, when I have never, ever used that name with him. Nursery did Santa. I will talk about St Nicholas and that people like to remember him this time of year with gifts and stockings.

FWIW, I think my mother and sister have "killed Christmas" for Liebs by forcing the whole Santa thing on us. Christmas is about Church nativities and Jesus and singing carols loudly. NOT Farmer Christmas. I know it's a hijacked festival and Jesus was really born months earlier - just means we get to sing carols for 4 months! So why can't I impose my Christmas, which is in my mind better, on other peoples' children when they impose their rubbishy Christmas on my children? And as for being sterner - I told them that we don't "do" Santa, Liebs doesn't get Santa gifts, we believe in Jesus not Santa: in front of Liebling they told me I was cruel and nasty to my son and they would do it for him (my mother attends Church too, so isn't a belief clash). In that case, I don't care to see them. "Oh grow up and get over yourself." Guess what - we don't see them Christmas day! They still don't care for my wishes and never have.

[boomba]

Fb I am really sorry your family don't respect your wishes As long as you tell L how you want to celebrate and that your family does it different then that is ok but "killing" others christmas is just becoming what they are and have done to you?

[Laranna]

So why can't I impose my Christmas, which is in my mind better, on other peoples' children when they impose their rubbishy Christmas on my children?

Because you're a better person than they. Don't stoop to their level.


As for us, we do Santa. I believe in the magic of Christmas and Santa is just one part of that, along with the family time, decorating the tree, baking gingerbread, singing carols, seeing the lights, getting ready for a big Christmas feast. I love the festivities and I'll let my kids believe and embrace the fun and magic of Christmas including Santa. There is a letter I came across recently which was a mother's reply to her daughter asking if her mum was Santa. Hope it's ok to post the link The Truth About Santa | Cozi.com

ETA: Snap Tanstar - same letter...

[Traveller]

I would be tempted to tell Liebs that "farmer Christmas" is a figment of your mum and sister's imaginations, and he's not real but not to tell them that because they don't understand. And have a bit of a giggle about how silly they are. I really wish I had done that when everybody started telling my kids about Santa. Then they would have felt like they were in on a joke that everyone else was fooled by, whilst still enjoying the magic of Christmas without losing sight of why Christians celebrate at this time of year. Instead I have been bullied into Santa by everyone around me. DS1 almost doesn't believe now, and as soon as he asks me outright then I will tell him the truth.

[SunnyRain]

We do Santa because it's fun and non-religious, but we are explaining to ds that he's just for fun and is a character like Mickey mouse or Peso the penguin.

However, it looks like ds wants to believe Santa is real, and we're not sure how he came to that conclusion, I'm not putting any effort into perpetuating the myth and we talk openly about it all in front of him.

Oh well, the magic of Santa and all that jazz, and as long as we're not lying to him about any invisible mythical beings like flying spaghetti monsters etc, we're doing ok.



--'--,--'--<@
Jude 07/10/08 | Lilac 16/06/11