I feel your pain too Dusty, I went through it with all three of mine. It totally does your head in trying to get them to do more than one cycle .

Each of my bubs was different, so I don't know if there really is a definite answer to doing it.

The best success I had was with DS2. He would wake up at 40 minutes on the dot, so I started sneaking into his room at about 35 minutes. I'd try keep myself out of view and as soon as he started to stir (he'd sigh and wriggle) I would start gently patting his tummy. This would help him go into the next sleep cycle. I have to say that it didn't work every time, but I found it would usually work for at least one of his 3 naps a day. This improved over time until he worked out how to do it himself and I didn't need to go back in there any more.

DS1 was having his day naps in a baby hammock at that age and I would just bounce him back to sleep when he woke up, it worked wonderfully, but not everyone owns a hammock LOL! He eventually learned how to bounce himself back to sleep .

With DD I just didn't have the time to go in and pat her back to sleep because I had two others to look after so I had to just go with the flow. She did eventually work it out for herself. She is still inconsistant with the length of her naps (sometime's they're just one cycle, sometimes they're longer), but she's learned to deal with what sleep she's had and I'll just put her down a bit earlier for the next sleep if she didn't have a very good one the first time.

DD would always fight her wraps as well, but I just made it even harder for her to get unwrapped and she definitely slept better wrapped. Some babies are different though, I guess that's why they don't come with a manual .

I hope you find something that works for you too! But the best thing you can do is try your best to relax and go with what you've got (hard I know!).