Definatly not
I always thought i wanted a boy, and first time round i was dead set i was having a boy, and than when she was born and the midwife asked me what she was, i said a boy of course! and DH said ummm i think you might want to have another look and there she was.... My baby girl although i thought i wanted a boy i was so thrilled for a girl! and thought if i couldn't have any more bubs than i am happy with a girl, whereas if i had of had a boy first than i think things would of been different, im pretty sure i would of pinned for a girl.
2nd time round i think i only wanted a boy for DH's sake, and we didn't find out until the day she was born and i scored another girl i felt bad for DH but he has reassured me so many times that he is more than happy with his 2 girls and has no desire for a boy!
He even made comment the other day when he saw a dad with 3 girls he said i could really go for 3 girls so yep i guess that confirms it he is happy with the 2 girls!
I see soooo many benifits of having 2 the same (as im sure those who have a pigeon pair see so many benifits for that).
Not going to go for a 3rd because i like our family dynamics as it is, and having a boy would change that (not that i have anything against boys, i miss out on that mother and son bond) and im not guaranteed to have another girl.
Plus boys and girls are so different, and the little boys we know as cute as they are, make it even more definate in our heads that no we are not missing out by having 2 girls! your family is what you make it
yeah I reckon I want a boy. I wanted DD to be a boy, mostly cos I had always had a fantasy about having an older brother to look out for me when I was younger. DD also scared me cos I have a negative relationship with my mum, and I was scared to mother a daughter, but now I just love it! It can be confronting at times. Especially since she is so much like me! ("OMG is that what that looks like from the outside" often goes thru my head). And whilst we don't know what sex this baby is I am not phased if we get another girl. It would seem right somehow.
BUT! after we have this baby, if it isn't a boy I think I will really be hanging for a boy. Might even go to Thailand and get gender selection to make sure... not sure, but I wouldn't want to spend my life wishing. So I would just make sure
i am an only child so i didnt have any views about how siblings would interact (well nto from my own experiences)
I have 2 boys.. and we are starting to think about a 3rd. I am expecting it will be a boy and i would love that but thetre is ap art of me that would like a girl now too! not enough to go the gender precition methods but it woud be sweet.
i think i am jumping the gun thinking what it may be - we arent even ttc yet.
fwiw i LOVE having 2 boys now and they are gorgeous together,
Its funny cos I have two boys and my SIL has two girls. I wanted at least to have one girl and she one boy. So we didnt get what we wanted. I hope my boys will have daughters of their own, but yeah I'll be the dreaded MIL!
Always loved the girlie stuff, barbies, to do their hair but I cant with boys.
Im 40, If i was 5 or 10 yrs younger, Id def. try for no. 3.
If there was such a thing "to choose the sex" would you do it?
With DD1, I knew I wanted a girl but convinced myself that she would be a boy. I think I was protecting myself. When I found out at the ultrasound she was female, I still wouldn't let myself believe it but as soon as she arrived, I was pretty ecstatic. After DD1, I sort of gave up any ideals of what my family would be as she was a 'wonderful surprise' and I was a single mother. Growing up I always pictured my family being a pigeon pair, very close in age (as my family was me and my brother, 16 months apart) but that wasn't going to happen! I then met DP and when we found out I was unexpectingly pregnant again, I thought I would naturally want a boy but found myself so excited to be having another girl. I absolutely love having two girls and can't imagine a better age gap or dynamic, things just really worked out. DP and I are done now, both of us think two is the perfect number. I had a brief pause at the ultrasound with DD2 where I grieved for experiences missed and was concerned about DP never having a boy (although he thinks two girls is great as he came from a pigeon pair where they didn't get on much at all, go figure; so always wanted two of the same, didn't matter what gender) but really, having two the same is amazing for our girls and having one of each would have been more for us than them if that makes sense.
I think if I had of had two boys though, I would have probably tried to talk DP into a third. I feel very lucky to have what is ideal for me. It is interesting how your own experiences colour your perception of that.
although i thought i wanted a boy i was so thrilled for a girl! and thought if i couldn't have any more bubs than i am happy with a girl, whereas if i had of had a boy first than i think things would of been different, im pretty sure i would of pinned for a girl.
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