For those who have children of only one sex

[AnnaBelle]

A great thread ...here goes ...I have 2 boys and I am really happy with the fact I have 2 sons.
I think if I had 2 daughters I would definately have felt some disappointment and would have wanted to try again
for a son without question ...
But the urge to have a third after having two sons is not as strong.
It is intersting to ask myself why I feel this way and I can only think that it is because of my own family
dynamic 3 girls - who all pleaded for our mum and dad to have a brother for us (which never happened)
Its funny but if we had a third I would be over the moon to have a daughter !!
But at the same time would welcome another baby boy with joy !!
Hmmm Intersting

[My Three Sons]

Funny you mention sympathy! I find it ironic and slightly weird that people can be sympathetic to a man without a son................but as a woman without a daughter I get buckleys sympathy and usually just harsh judgement if Im honest about my yearning for a girl. IMO its the same thing! Especially when I feel society puts such a huge prize on the mother-daughter relationship.

Your right Kels, in the end you will be happy with your baby! I love my boys dearly, especially my youngest who I suffered pretty severe gender disappointment with while I was pregnant. He's even probably the one Im closest to! Those of us who feel disappointed at lost opportunities (either badly or mildly) arent monsters who dont love their kids, quite the opposite.

So true.
Yep... i long for a daughter. I LOVE my boys, they are awesome. But i have a very close bond with my mother and i would have liked the chance at least to have a bond like that with my daughter. My boys are fantastic, but in society today, once they are married, it is generally the wifes family that they gravitate towards more. I know that may not be the case, but who knows. After my 2nd, i had no GD at all. It was when i had my 3rd (a surprise, but one i wanted very much) that GD hit hard- knowing i would never have a daughter. I am sure though it would have been the same if i had 3 girls for me. If i could have picked, i would have had 2 boys then a girl, but oh well.

[AnnaBelle]

Hmm..My 3 sons are you predicting my future???
Hey there is hope - I am a daughter and I love my husband's Mum more than anything
she has a lot of qualities that I wish my own Mum had - and we definately gravitate more
to DH's family
xo
Anna

[Freya]

So true.
Yep... i long for a daughter. I LOVE my boys, they are awesome. But i have a very close bond with my mother and i would have liked the chance at least to have a bond like that with my daughter. My boys are fantastic, but in society today, once they are married, it is generally the wifes family that they gravitate towards more. I know that may not be the case, but who knows. After my 2nd, i had no GD at all. It was when i had my 3rd (a surprise, but one i wanted very much) that GD hit hard- knowing i would never have a daughter. I am sure though it would have been the same if i had 3 girls for me. If i could have picked, i would have had 2 boys then a girl, but oh well.

I agree with you that generally in society the wife's family get more. That said, in my life its different; Im closer with my inlaws than my own parents but that is mostly due to neccesity. My parents are useless so my inlaws stepped into the dominant grandparent role (well as dominant as they can be when we always live 1000's of km away). My MIL was there when my first child was born, she is the person I discuss anything with. If my own mother was the kind of mother every woman should have it probably would have been different BUT I do love my inlaws so they probably would have been nearly equal.

I guess its bad to say but I can only hope one or two of my boys marry girls whose mothers suck!

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I'm a lot closer to my PiL than my parents, emotionally AND geographically. DH is too much of a Mamma's boy (in a good way) to run too far away from his parents. I don't believe that the mother's parents are the "better" grandparents anyway - when mothers didn't go back to work so early then yes, the mother would usually want her mother around more (and my mother was very poisonous about her MiL too) - but these days I could see my grandchildren without seeing their mother if I offered free childcare, so I can be favourite grandparent and the children will want to see me!

[willow5]

I have 3 boys and have never felt sad for not having a girl. When I was pg with my 3rd everyone said I must have wanted girl. Some even didn't believe me when I said I really didn't care I just never did. Healthy was my only wish

[My Three Sons]

I didn't mean it happens all the time, but no doubt out of 3 boys- 3 potential wives, i am going to loose out somewhere and at least one won't like me. Who knows.

[meow]

I guess its bad to say but I can only hope one or two of my boys marry girls whose mothers suck!

I sometimes hope for the same thing. Poor girl