My little girl is (hopefully) getting to the end at 2 1/2 years old, but with a 9 month old, it's not far before the litle guy starts his fight with toddlerhood - EVERYONE deal with them. You are NOT alone! We use lots of different techniques/methods, whatever you want to call them. Sometimes they have worked, and other times they don't. But the good news is that 'this too shall pass'. If you are giving them what you want to the detrement of what you need/want to do, then it's worth trying a different approach. I found ignoring the behaviour the best way initially, and praising the good behaviour made a difference. It's often trial and error, but soft parenting (gentle, creating compromises) for us needs to be also complemented with hard parenting (being tough and firm) - the tough part is working out which one to use at what time.