What do you do when you and your other half have opposing views?

[LuluHB]

Thanks for all the views everyone. Yes Sangie - its E I'm talking about. FWIW, the paed we see with her is strongly of the view that she should be back on the meds at this point in time - we've trialled her off them (weaned her off Cass - definitely didn't go cold turkey) and the results aren't so flash. His view is that she will likely be on and off meds her entire life. Not what I want to hear for my little girl, but it is what it is and to my mind, no different (and in some cases so much better) than a physical condition that is lifelong. We both agree on the choice of paed - he is known in Perth for being very anti-meds and will prescribe sunshine and exercise rather than ritulin etc, so I am very confident that if he says she needs meds, then she needs meds. That's obviously on top of my own observations

I'm not sure she's really old enough to understand the concept of meds Divvy to really get a proper opinion from her, but she does know that at the moment she gets sad, angry or frustrated but doesn't know why and doesn't like it, so I guess that's her answer right there.

I think this is a bit of a generalisation but I think my DH is taking what is a male view that if we don't have to medicate then maybe it will just magically disappear - kind of like if we don't talk about a problem its never happened sort of thing. Added to this is that he never takes medication himself, never goes to a doctor, and doesn't use things like alcohol to relieve tension/stress either. He's not a health nut or anything - just, I don't know. He's him and he's lucky that his biology is such that he's never needed any form of artificial "help". In most things we either agree, or he doesn't feel strongly enough to disagree with my position, but on this we're at a cross roads

[misty]

I really hope you can reach a resolution. If you feel he is making his decision for the 'wrong' reasons (not reasons based on judgement of a situation, but on emotion - fear denial, etc) then I think that changes he situation a bit too. I really think mediation (not someone saying what you should do, but rather someone working with you both to reach a compromise) is your best shot of a resolution. Relationships Australia do this kind of mediation.

[beansbeans!]

honestly we talk it out until its resolved. In your situation though, we expect each other to research all the evidence we can find to back up our point of view. we will talk it out until we can make a decision.
I dont know what sort of medicationyour miss is on, but if it were dh and iin your sit I would expect him to do the research and find the evidence to backup his point of view, if he couldnt then we dont follow his point of view does that make sense?