In our comm services crt we learnt that tanties are in fact a very healthy part of a childs development apparently the bigger the better lol not that it helps :S

Its part of them learning their independance. Its like them giving us a test, in order for them to become more independant they need to know mummy and daddy are going to be there no matter what so follows the tantie.

We were also taught the clinging thing ie insisting you pee with them in the toilet or screaming right outside the door, is also another healthy learning stage.

Anyway we do like most have said and let them know where here and let them be we find it doesnt last as long that way

pls excuse the spelling mistakes on my galaxcy