I am not about to cause ill feeling or drama by defending my own opinion. As you have so clearly thought to do. I could attack your parenting from your children's behaviour, and I could make a number of suggestions to what you ask.

These "cotton balling" thoughts are my own, it is an open forum and I thought it was allowed. I wasn't attacking you. But bear in mind this is from a parent who has felt the loss of a child (at no fault of their own). To me, if I have to I inconvenience myself to not fell that pain again, then so be it.