I am not about to cause ill feeling or drama by defending my own opinion. As you have so clearly thought to do. I could attack your parenting from your children's behaviour, and I could make a number of suggestions to what you ask.

These "cotton balling" thoughts are my own, it is an open forum and I thought it was allowed. I wasn't attacking you. But bear in mind this is from a parent who has felt the loss of a child (at no fault of their own). To me, if I have to I inconvenience myself to not fell that pain again, then so be it.
I am sorry if I may have come across as defensive. It wasn't my intention. I never thought you were attacking me, and understand where you are coming from. O just disagree. I was only trying to show that there IS another side of the story.

I have no idea about this particular woman at the school. I just don't think it is as big a deal as some other people here obviously do. And I am thinking that (like myself) she has probably thought about her actions before following through, if only because she knows she may cop some flack about it. I doubt that anything you say or do would be appreciated or taken on board by her; as I know myself, I would be polite if addressed but not change my position nor my actions.

On the other hand if someone were to offer to stay and watch my kids for me, or to collect my DD1 I would also jump at that oppertunity - and when circumstances are favourable I do take my kids in with me. I am just trying to offer the other side of the coin here, as I KNOW I am not the only one to think or do this.