thanks everyone

yes he does have reflux. About a week and a half ago we went to the docs about the colic and reflux and pretty much got told that there's no evidence that medication works and give it time. Felt like it was a bit of a pointless exercise. Next week we're going again for his 6 week check up and I'm seeing the GP that I prefer, who is a parent herself, and I'm going to discuss it again. We've raised his mattress a bit in the bassinette but I think it needs more, so might go to Clark's Rubber on the weekend and see if we can get a wedge cut to put under the mattress. He definitely sleeps better when he is in my arms in an upright position.

As for the carrier, I've been umming and aahing because of the vomiting, but I'm going to go have a look at some on the weekend. If wearing him during the day means he'll sleep better and be more comfortable, I'll deal with being vomited on. It happens anyway, if I'm just holding him.

This is the kind of stuff they need to teach you/prepare you for in the parenting classes. I think my personality is part of the problem too with how I've been feeling - I like to be organised, plan things and have routine. I remembered something today our paediatrician said before I checked out - don't put unrealistic expectations on yourself, babies are unpredictable.